03 7 / 2012
Clear up gendered confusion right away.
This was one of the biggest points of confusion in this wedding. Some brides/grooms don’t want to split the party by gender, but rather by sides. Make sure the entire wedding party is on the same page in regards to this. Should the bride’s brother be contacting the Maid-of-Honor or the Best Man about tux rentals? Does the groom’s sister contribute money to the bachelor or bachelorette party? Sit down with the bride, groom, and their respective attendants (MOH, Best Man, or whatever the fuck they decide) and figure out all of that up front.
02 7 / 2012
Don’t give in to being “one of the guys.”
Accentuate your femininity. If that means wear a dress, wear a dress. Feeling a little bit more masculine, find a cute pant or skirt suit. Do what is distinctly you. Same goes for male maids-of-honor…no, he doesn’t have to wear a dress, but wearing the same color as the bridesmaids would tie everyone together.
02 7 / 2012
this honestly has always been my biggest wish…and now it’s happening
(via quit-looking-for-me)
01 7 / 2012
Pick a fun name for yourself that distinctly fits your relationship with the groom.
Nothing is fun about “Best WOman.” The emphasis on gender is going to plague you (quietly, but other times blaringly) over the next few months. Pick something you are proud to call yourself.
30 6 / 2012
I don’t want to seem like a humorless gender-warrior, but I guess on a certain level I just don’t quite understand why it’s funny … as a groom, do you really want to be thought of as unhappy about your marriage? As a bride, do you want to be seen as “winning” some game that results in your frowny-face partner being stuck with you for the rest of your lives?
-from “Game Over T-Shirts” on OffBeat Bride
30 6 / 2012
i can’t believe some couples make their female best man wear a tux!!!
and some even question if a man of honor should wear a dress
29 6 / 2012
what to call the female best man
- groom’s attendent
- honor attendant
- best WOman
- best friend of honor to the groom
i like alex’s choice the best
