05 7 / 2012
It doesn’t matter who is emailing, calling, texting, or paging you, REPLY!!! The most stressful thing for those involved in wedding planning is an unresponsive wedding party. Sometimes all they need to know is your size for wedding attire or opinion on a decision. If the bride keeps texting you and you have a shit phone, tell her you would rather be emailed. Communication is key. Don’t be an asshole.
04 7 / 2012
Everyone has a different relationship with their marrying couple. For me, I am lucky enough to be quite close to the bride - even moreso now that we are tackling this wedding stuff together. Regardless of your relationship to the bride (or whether you are male, female, best man, or groomsman), you should make sure the bride feels included in your relationship with the groom and your enthusiasm for her happy day, as well as your bro’s, is clear. If you have never met her before or only a handful of times, make sure you make her feel supported.
03 7 / 2012
This was one of the biggest points of confusion in this wedding. Some brides/grooms don’t want to split the party by gender, but rather by sides. Make sure the entire wedding party is on the same page in regards to this. Should the bride’s brother be contacting the Maid-of-Honor or the Best Man about tux rentals? Does the groom’s sister contribute money to the bachelor or bachelorette party? Sit down with the bride, groom, and their respective attendants (MOH, Best Man, or whatever the fuck they decide) and figure out all of that up front.
02 7 / 2012
Accentuate your femininity. If that means wear a dress, wear a dress. Feeling a little bit more masculine, find a cute pant or skirt suit. Do what is distinctly you. Same goes for male maids-of-honor…no, he doesn’t have to wear a dress, but wearing the same color as the bridesmaids would tie everyone together.
01 7 / 2012
Nothing is fun about “Best WOman.” The emphasis on gender is going to plague you (quietly, but other times blaringly) over the next few months. Pick something you are proud to call yourself.